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Off topic, but this discussion tweaked on some thoughts I’ve been having about Joss Whedon and how he’s been hailed uncritically as a Feminist writer and producer and director because he writes active, physically strong female leads when, actually, he’s really not Feminist in the way he uses those leads.

Let me start by saying that I was and am a huge Buffy/Angel fan. I cannot express how much these shows meant to me, how much I adored them, what a difference they made to me during a difficult period of my life (my mid to late teens). BUT. That show is fucking awful to the female characters. The treatment of female as opposed to male characters is startling when you look at it in retrospect. Female characters are infinitely more disposable than male.

Angel? Left and got his own show. Spike? Left, came back, left, came back and left again ad nauseum. Riley? Left and came back then left again. Oz? Left and came back and left again. Giles? Left and came back. Wesley? Left and got his own show.

Now let’s look at female characters who bore roughly equal importance within the story as love interests, friends, or allies.

Jenny? Dead. Kendra? Dead. Joyce? Dead. Tara? Dead. Cordelia? Dead. Anya? Dead. Fred? Dead.

Every time that Joss really needed to hammer in a message about tragedy, hopelessness or darkness, the first tool he reached for was fridging the female. Did a beloved MALE character ever die in Buffy or Angel in order to increase the emotional stakes, tension, or sense of peril? No. The only time a male main character died for good in either show was Doyle, and that was because the actor was leaving, and they needed to get shot of the character fast. Generally, even when you thought one of the guys had died, they would come back, like Angel, and be fully reintegrated into the plot.

Female characters who died only got to return briefly as avatars of evil, such as Jenny being used as the face of Buffy’s most dangerous enemy, the First Evil, Cordelia’s stint as the mother of Jasmine (and then for one further episode as herself, before dying again). Fred’s *actress* got to stay, but her soul got ripped to shreds so finally that there was no hope she’d ever return, and her body was left as the host for an evil goddess who later turned out to be not so bad, really, apart from that whole… murdering Fred, thing.

What I’m saying here isn’t that Joss Whedon is an evil, terrible, no good misogynist. What I’m saying is that we shouldn’t so easily accept a male creator as a force for Feminism when his work displays such a stereotypical disregard for the female characters.

Other factors to consider:

The Goddamn infuriating Nice Guy Xander Harris, who slut-shames, assaults, judges, and dumps his way through the female cast and is still somehow billed as the series’ ‘heart’.

The way that female sexuality is consistently punished. Buffy has sex with Angel = Angel turns evil and tries to kill everything she loves. Oz and Willow shown having sex = Oz turns feral and leaves her. Willow and Tara get back together and have sex = Tara dies and Willow turns evil. Buffy has a relationship with Spike = Xander shames her and then victim-blames her when Spike assaults her. Every other relationship Buffy has = Buffy gets dumped and has her heart broken.

The way male sexuality is treated neutrally or rewarded. Xander sexually assaults Buffy while under magical influence and pretends to forget about it = no consequences. Xander tries to force Cordelia to love him and casts a love spell on all the women in town = no consequences. Xander has sex with Faith = no consequences. Xander jilts Anya at the alter = no consequences for Xander AT ALL OMG.

This presents, to me, a picture of a male creator who WANTS to write a Feminist show full of strong characters, female, but is so mired in the tropes and conventions of our patriarchal media that he literally cannot help himself from conforming to them without even realising it.

So basically… Joss Whedon isn’t in any position to be calling himself a Feminist. Even if he wanted to, which he doesn’t because he thinks we should call ourselves Humanists even though that completely misses the point and also already means something else anyway. *Sigh*







Sexism 60’s


What the fuck was wrong with men in the 60’s?

advertising is important as it’s the historian’s best resource for identifying the values of an era. but yeah, these were fucked. the 60s was generally as fucked as the 50s. people forget that. 

It literally says ‘men are better than women’ in bold type, what the fuck. I knew this was a thing, but that is a lack of subtlety I couldn’t have written into a spoof…

This is the generation that spawned most of our parents… People our parents’ age run Washington. Starting to make sense?

When you look to the past, the struggles of the present become a great deal more clear.



Alright guys, this shit got me heated. 

So today as I was getting ready for school, I get a call from my youngest sister’s elementary school clinic. My sister gets on the phone and tells me she is sitting out of class because her skirt is too short. “You need to bring me one that goes down to my knees, they said,” is what she told me.

Quick recap: My sister is eleven years old, in fifth grade, and has some mental and physical disabilities. She’s the tallest girl in her class. Also, the dress code states her skirt must be down to her fingertips, not her knees.

When I get there, I insisted I see her instead of just dropping her stuff off. I was not suprised to find her with a skirt obviously within the rules of the dress code. I asked her what class she was missing and she told me math. She’d been sitting out for atleast twenty or thirty minutes while she waited for me to come.

She only learns things at about a third of the pace as everyone else in her class. Even missing this short amount of time means missing a lot of information for her. Just to recap: she has to sit out of class because of the length of her skirt. She can’t even just sit in her classroom while she waits for me, because apparently that’s too distracting. To whom, you ask? I can’t really tell you. Are ten year old boys, fifth grade boys already old enough to be sexualizing her to the point that they were going so insane with horniness that they had to whisk her away until she could put on something ‘decent’. 

So not only are the sexualizing a fifth grader, they are giving her different rules for the dress code based on her height and making her miss valuable class time. This bullshit needs to stop. Eleven goddamn years old and she’s already being taught her body isn’t her own anymore, that she’s being too provocative if she wears a skirt to the same standard as all the other short, skinny girls in her class just because she looks older.

As a P.S., I would like to point out that she is already bullied because of her disabilities. Pulling her out of class and making her change is even more of an embarrassment, and only leads to more teasing. 

please signal boost this.

We found that, upon exposure to sexist humor, men higher in sexism discriminated against women by allocating larger funding cuts to a women’s organization than they did to other organizations.

We also found that, in the presence of sexist humor, participants believed the other participants would approve of the funding cuts to women’s organizations. We believe this shows that humorous disparagement creates the perception of a shared standard of tolerance of discrimination that may guide behavior when people believe others feel the same way.

The research indicates that people should be aware of the prevalence of disparaging humor in popular culture, and that the guise of benign amusement or “it’s just a joke” gives it the potential to be a powerful and widespread force that can legitimize prejudice in our society

Thomas E. Ford, professor of psychology at Western Carolina University (via baebees)

this is why sexist humor isn’t fucking humor. it’s deepseated misogyny.

(via detectivejoan)





With all the heat Anita Sarkeesian gets for her Tropes series, you’d think it was a new topic, but Gene Siskel & Roger Ebert had a discussion on a similar theme when they were talking about the influx of slasher movies on their show in 1980.


34 years later and this is STILL relevant



I love (read: hate) that the conversation hasn’t budged from this for as long as I’ve been alive.

DC Comics Thinks Their T-Shirts Suck Too


Since I started this blog four years ago I’ve reported on problematic merchandise featuring DC Comics IP too many times to mention. And it seems to go the same way:

1. Post on item

2. Get worked over in comments, Twitter and comics forums by people stating one or more of the following:

  • feminists have no sense of humor aka “Ah yes, more, more bullsh*t from the feminist brigade”
  • that there are “real problems” in the world and question why “this is even an issue”
  • I’m a woman and have no problem with it
  • I showed it to my wife/daughter/girlfriend/mother and they had no problem with it
  • You “misinterpreted” the item 
  • comics are for dudes so get over it
  • why did I ignore that other thing so clearly I am a selective journalist that just hates DC and finally, always a favorite,
  • I’m an ugly bitch SJW feminazi who needs a good dickin’

And yup all that stuff got said this week when I posted about a t-shirt featuring Wonder Woman and Superman that basically elicited a huge EWWWW from most people who saw it.


Coincidentally another t-shirt popped this week that state the wearer was “training to be Batman’s wife”.


And that got an equal amount of disgust.

But this time? This time DC Comics responded to the issue and we got this:

DC Comics is home to many of the greatest male and female Super Heroes in the world. All our fans are incredibly important to us, and we understand that the messages on certain t-shirts are offensive. We agree. Our company is committed to empowering boys and girls, men and women, through our characters and stories. Accordingly, we are taking a look at our licensing and product design process to ensure that all our consumer products reflect our core values and philosophy.

I have to admit I’m surprised to not only see them comment but acknowledge the problem and say they will try and fix it.

Good job, DC.






if anybody asks me why i hate men, i’m just gonna redirect them to this post.

it’s pretty fucking obvious that men only want to invest in breast cancer research to further degrade, objectify, and jerk off to body parts they already feel 100% entitled to. that’s what is at stake for them. 

what about the women whose “tatas” weren’t saved? how must they feel being surrounded by awareness ads that focus more on keeping women’s sexy-sexy-titties-to-continue-titillating-the-males than saving real life human beings and helping survivors? 

If anyone’s wondering, those posts came from here. It’s a forum for breast cancer support. Give it a read, and you’ll see how many women are outright abandoned by their husbands, sometimes after being married for decades, because their “tatas” couldn’t be saved.

This culture of “save the tatas” even goes as far as the doctor’s offices themselves. Most doctors request that the husband be present during surgical consultations, as though he has an equal say in the patient-professional discussion.

If the woman is single, as was my case, doctors have actually recommended postponing surgery until she finds a relationship, because “it could be nearly impossible to find someone who accepts it [your unnatural tatas] in years to come”. 

I’m 15 months post-mastectomy, and the date I had this past week was the first time since then that a guy hadn’t reacted negatively to my scars. The relief was so overwhelming that I was fighting back tears. When I told him —essentially warning him that my body wasn’t what he must be expecting — I felt so guilty; it seemed to have the same weight and shame as telling someone I had some sort of an incurable STI or a felony record.

I shouldn’t have felt that way. I should not be ashamed of choosing to live. 

Thank you for your important commentary! I hope you find someone who can love you for who you are and admire your strength as a survivor.

holy shit this just makes me so immensely disgusted and i actually feel sick to the core??? just. holy shit.



I honestly believe that other entertainment communities have these problems but don’t talk about them. I’m proud that when we find out someone is being completely disgusting, we don’t try to sweep it under the rug. We don’t let them back in to perform at the Grammies next year. We don’t pretend they’re too big to be packed up in a box and removed.

I’m not saying we couldn’t do a better job. But I’m proud of how the community has handled this. Particularly Laci, who is amazing.

I’m incredibly proud of Laci and the other YouTubers who’ve spoken out against Sam Pepper and previous sexual assault that’s taken place in the YouTube community. I was happy to add my voice as a YouTuber, as a woman and as a survivor of sexual assault because this shit needs to stop.

Buuuuut let’s not congratulate ourselves just yet. Cause SOMEONE has been welcomed back to Vidcon year after year even though that SOMEONE got on stage at Vidon and told completely inappropriate and racist jokes to the delight of over 7k children. And….they haven’t been dismissed from Vidcon. That same mysterious someone has built an ENTIRE CAREER off of racist stereotypes, blackface, rape jokes and peodophilia jokes. And then that someone goes and does videos with everyone and their mother on YouTube and everyone holds hands and shouts “community!” while they rake in lots of Adsense dollars. And when I talk about how upsetting and problematic this content is, that person’s teenage fans call me the n-word and tell me to kill myself. I WONDER where they learned that from??? 

At the beginning of this month I exchanged Tumblr messages and then emails with John Green about the rampant racism on YouTube and what could be done about it. I stressed to him how important it was for allies like you and John to speak up because your audience is so impressionable and takes every word you say as gospel. Not to mention the fact that two white dudes speaking about social issues is considered revolutionary. FYI when POC talk about these issues it’s called “playing the race card”. Since my last lengthy email to John detailing content suggestions he’s yet to get back to me. I realize you’re both incredibly busy writing books, making movies, planning conferences, and congratulating yourselves on Tumblr but you guys probably talk right? So when are we going to stop sweeping the trend of hugely problematic racist content under the rug and talk about it? Lemme know, cause I’m here. 

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